Actually, I spend a lot of time in my writing thinking very carefully about names.
Names have to feel right for character, it’s like naming a child or pet. I often change character names if they don’t feel quite right. I urge you to think the same way. So for example, Lydia in While No One Was Watching started life as ‘Delores’ but there was a psychic of that name in Ghost and of course the famous Delores in Stephen King’s book (albeit a different spelling) so I tried on a few names before I found the perfect one.
So my friends, on the subject of names, this will be my last blog post as a Miss, after fifty years of being a miss! Yes there will be no blog posts now until a week’s time (unless the wedding gets to me and I feel I must!!!) but the idea is next time I blog I will be a Mrs — complete with new surname.
I started life as Debbie Wyatt. Not a bad name but always more or less last on the register! But a good noble English name, even if we are related to a famous traitor!
Lee and I no doubt would have married and he would have made me ‘Mrs Hobbs’. Also a solid name. But sadly I lost Lee to cancer before that could ever happen. We’d talked about it. In a desperate act of love, I did even ask him to marry me on his 32nd birthday (which, as it turned out, was only a week before he died). I had this crazy ‘movie style’ notion we could do it at the hospital (how sad would that have been though?)… the nurses said we could, in fact, they wanted us to. But Mr Pragmatic that he was, he said he wanted to wait and if he got better we’d do it properly — he said in his eyes, we were married anyway and that’s what counted. True, we were connected so deeply, but sad never the less. I guess I just wanted to be his wife and have his name. Alas, it was never meant to be.
That is why a few months after his death I decided to join our names forever, I did not want to be Hobbs as it felt as if I was saying well we would have been married and that was not why I did it. So I became by deed poll: Hobbs-Wyatt.
The hyphen is a symbol of our undying connection.
On the plus side, I did move up the register 🙂 I remember when I called people, the bank etc. to change it, how everyone assumed good news and congratulated me on my wedding. I had to point out it was still Miss and it was not what they thought. A few embarrassed silences later, the message hit: don’t make assumptions.
This time will be different. So different 🙂
While I will be proudly changing my name to Brown (another noble surname) on Saturday — for my work and for my writing I will forever be Hobbs-Wyatt. This feels absolutely right, the way I felt when I decided on Lydia in my novel.
Sure, ‘Hobbs-Wyatt-Brown’ has a nice ring to it (a touch of Jane Austin maybe?) but reeks of pomp to me, anyway when I get really famous it means I will have a fairly dull sounding normal name so will be harder to find by stalkers!!! 😉 There are lots of Browns…
This thinking about names also brings to mind how last year my brother married so we gained a Wyatt and of course a new one is on the way too!
So, Hobbs-Wyatt, the writer/editor (the only one as far as I know) by day, Brown the wife by night.
And hey, from W to B, not bad in terms of alphabetical lists, right? I am moving up in the world 😉
So that is all for now and I will be back next week blogging for the first time as a Mrs!
Have a wonderful writing time folks: think carefully about names, it’s important ❤
In celebration of my nuptials, ONE free signed copy of my novel to the first person to message me here in reply to this post saying only your name! I will request your address and post it out after the wedding!
Oh and PS rings are made and we tried them on for size, just need polishing and engraving and will be collected Friday morning in time for the wedding. Yay!